Playing to lose
We play to win. But it's important to learn to "play to lose." This can be the difference between a mundane existence and a thrilling adventure.
If we fixate on the prize, then the journey becomes a drudgery, and we play only when the prize is guaranteed. However, if we enjoy the journey, then despite our wins or losses, the game becomes a thrilling adventure. And in the end, we do win.
Imagine a "Kobayashi Maru" situation where you known you'll lose. It's like trying to find the best move despite having a losing chess position. Your attention then focuses on the journey rather than just the end result.
Once you can play to both win or lose, you'll enjoy "playing" regardless of whether you're winning or losing. And the more you play, the better you become, which is better than procrastinating because of a fear of failure.